I’ve been polyamorous, with few exceptions, for the past 10 years.
It was mostly my partners’ choice. In Austin, if you like dating alpha males in the ‘conscious’ community, you’re pretty much stuck with poly.
I met my current partner 7 years ago. He was poly. I was post-relationship, in one of my “fuck poly, it’s too painful” phases. At the time, we did not work out.
We re-met two years ago. I’m writing this post because my experience with poly this time around, with him, has been so mind-bendingly different that it revealed exactly what about poly has been painful for me. And, it’s shown me a way to do things in relationship differently.
I’m not scared when my partner goes on dates now.
I feel loved and included.
I feel in control of my own emotions about it.
I feel excited for the new families I get to meet.
Here’s how it happens.
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BAD POLY:
“Sure, you can meet my other partner(s). Here is their number.” (Terrible poly: “Uhhhh…I’d prefer you two didn’t meet.”)
GOOD POLY:
“What’s a free weekend for you this month? I want to take you and my other partner on a retreat weekend where you…
